Remember when the teacher used to take ATTENDANCE? Count who was THERE for the day?
I think that we (humans in general) are sometimes in ATTENDANCE,
but not really PRESENT.
Know what I mean? I for
one am guilty! Took a long road trip this
week, but how much scenery did I see (vs. how many games of Words With
Friends did I play…)? This is something I
have tried to work on in my life the past decade or so – being PRESENT
in moments, paying attention, getting involved, interacting, and noticing
things.
In that vein, 2 days ago I posted this on a Facebook page I run
called “Kindness Activist”:
“Hypothetical question: if someone handed you
$50 right now, what would you do with it? #KindnessActivist
“
Only, guess what, it was NOT a hypothetical
question. It was real – a genuine query
to see what people would do if I gave them $50 of the proceeds from the
Kindness Activist Yard Sale. I have had
the pleasure of using some of the money, I wanted to see what others might do
with it if they were given the chance to share it.
The results were confounding to me. 80 people viewed the post. 13 people “engaged” with the post (whatever
that means). And only 2 – TWO – took time
to ponder what they would do with the $50 and reply. That astounds me, because it seems so
opposite of what my immediate response would be to a prompt like that! I think if I were asked the same question, I would
reply with a dozen things I would like to use $50 for 😊 .
I thought about WHY people may not have responded. Ideas I came up with:
- Too busy
- Uninterested
- $50 was not enough money to take a break in their day to consider how
they would use it
- Hypotheticals aren’t their thing
- Too much effort to think of something
- They deemed it a stupid post 😊
- They thought someone else would have a better idea of what to do with the money
But 2 people DID reply. I considered what that might mean about them:
- They had some downtime to think about the question
- They like hypotheticals
- They suspected it
might not be hypothetical
- They live their lives
as present, engaged, creative, and interactive people
Note: I
am NOT dissing anyone who saw the post and didn’t reply, I just really like the
social experiment aspect of it and considering the ins/outs/whys of it all.
I hope the 2 respondents don’t mind if I extrapolate
a bit about them here.
Rebecca |
Samantha |
The other respondent was Samantha Marcum
Blackaby. I have not known Samantha very
long – she is the niece of our Florida neighbor. What I DO know about her is that when her
Aunt Carol (our neighbor) died and we went to Kentucky for the funeral, Samantha
opened up her home to us as if we were family.
She lives on a farm and she let us throw on some borrowed boots for the
mud and took us city-folk on a tour of that farm that I will never forget. I was in a CHICKEN COOP, people!! And the next day she cooked us a breakfast
like no other – there was food for days, all of it made by her (and her
parents) even though they were in the middle of grieving a dear relative. I also know she is a very supportive mother,
in love with her little nephew, has gone through some super tough experiences
in her life but keeps smiling, and is an amazing 3rd grade teacher
in rural Kentucky. Samantha said she
would use the $50 to buy a pair of tennis shoes for a child she knows for the upcoming
school year.
Now for the accounting part of this post:
·
Rebecca - $50 of the
proceeds from the Kindness Yard Sale have been donated to RAICES in your name
·
Samantha - $50 of the
proceeds from the Kindness Yard Sale are heading your way to invest in new
shoes for your deserving student
And to the rest of us – let’s strive to live
like today isn’t hypothetical. Let’s
engage, interact, create – be it in the virtual world or in the real one that
surrounds us.
Let’s BE IN ATTENDENCE and BE
PRESENT.
P.S. – we miiiight have bought some Powerball
tickets to hand out… I mean,
hypothetically speaking, there could be a couple of chances for someone, maybe
YOU, to turn into a millionaire come Wednesday June 26th…. If you want to be PRESENT for that, comment here. I mean, SOMEBODY’S gotta win, right?
P.P.S. – if you would like to follow Rebecca’s
lead and donate to RAICES, here is how: https://www.raicestexas.org/donate/
LOL. Present! :)
ReplyDeleteEMILIE - is this Emilie Bruchon??
DeletePresent, Susan! I read your post and wanted to comment, but I felt badly that I might appear selfish. I would use $50 for myself, as I bought a fixer-upper and have been working so hard to make it home. It has taken a lot of time, energy, frustration, and quite a bit of $$$! All the while, I am going through some health issues, but really trying to be "present" every moment of every daily experience I have been going through lately. Life can be so difficult at times, and I must say that mine has been very "taxing" since losing my Mom in January, and having to put my grief aside for awhile, as I needed to be present to make things happen in a very short period of time. So...I guess I would definitely be a little selfish right now and put $50, or a possible chance of a million dollars towards the bills that have been arriving daily! With the chance of a million dollars, I could also afford to be quite generous to others who are in need. So, this is my post to say I am indeed present...😉
ReplyDeleteI think I know who this is writing, even though it is posted as "unknown" :) . Please check your FB messages!!
DeleteI feel horrible that I didn't reply. I have been working summer school to help pay for my daughter's senior trip and because of my illness have been only able to work and sleep. I believe I would five the 50$ to a Senior in Rachel's class who has made something of his life. He has come from extreme poverty, lost his mother and older brother and has survived and thrived for his graduation present. I'm so glad you are part of this world and spreading light and kindness wherever you go. I'm trying not to beat myself up for being sick and having such a small amount of energy that I'm not able to be so active with my time! :( Thank you for being you!!!
ReplyDeleteGiiiiirl - YOU ARE FABULOUS! That would be an awesome gift, $50 to the kid who has made something of his life.
DeleteDO NOT beat yourself up! YOU, my friend, are a bright ray of sunshine in the world.
Forgive mistakes I can't figure out how to edit. When I'm not "present" I'm probably sleeping to catch up from having damaged mitochondria!!
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