Kindness Accounting - January 2022 Edition

I am back with another update on how Kindness Yard Sale funds are being used!!! 

Oh how I wish I could include you all in the activities when the money is spent.  It is so fun to be able to share the kindness with the world.

Ok, first up! 

I used Kindness Yard Sale money to buy Starbucks gift cards.  We bought 20 $5 cards, then headed over to our local grocery store.  Grocery store employees have worked SO HARD during this pandemic, and lately the grocery shelves here in the DC metro area have been bare.  There was a bad snowstorm, leaving delivery trucks stuck on the highway.  Plus, people PANIC shopped and hoarded items.  And some store employees are sick with Covid and cannot work.  The end result is hard working employees and cranky customers.  So that’s why we treated them to Starbucks cards!  It was very fun to hand them a card and thank them for all they do to keep the community nourished.  We gave out 10 cards, will do the other 10 the next time we shop.  

Ready to go in and hand out gift cards!

Kindness money spent:  $100

One thing I really respect in people is the ability to be VULNERABLE.  It is difficult!  Really putting yourself out there, being honest, especially when things are rough, can be hard.  That’s why when I read this post from a neighbor, I new it was the perfect way to use Kindness Yard Sale funds:

“Would anyone be able to pick up some food from the Salvation Army on Glebe Rd for us?   Our car was repossessed the other day, I have been unable to get groceries and other necessities as I didn’t know our car was taken.”

I was so moved by the request.  The woman was not asking for a hand-out.  She didn’t ask for money.  She didn’t even ask for FOOD.  All she wanted was someone to pick up food for them at the Salvation Army.  And the post was made 2 days before THANKSGIVING!

I contacted the poster and explained about Kindness Yard Sale funds.  I asked her to give me a shopping list and we set out for the store!  It was very fun filling the cart with food for these deserving strangers.  And they were so appreciative when we delivered it.  Turned out they were new to Virginia, there were chronic health issues too, and the family was just in a hard spot.  Other neighbors also pitched in, and the kids in the family wrote letters to Santa and got gifts through that project, too. 

Operation "THANKSGIVING!!" under way

Because of the yard sale, that family was able to have a delicious Thanksgiving dinner.  In fact, I saw that the next month, the woman even posted to invite others to join in their Christmas dinner if they would like!  Inviting strangers to the table!!  That is kindness.

After the grocery deliver and support the community gave, the woman edited her post to add:

“Thank you so much everyone, we are truly blessed. We could be going through this anywhere in the world, but we are here, and the community has been nothing short of amazing. Bless you all for the information and offering to help. We were blessed with lots of groceries and met an amazing couple! My faith in humanity has been restored to a whole new level!  Happy Holidays everyone and when you need a hand, or someone to make you a cup a of coffee and offer you an ear, you have a whole a family here who appreciates all of their neighbors!”

Kindness money spent:  $292.32

I got word of a sweet couple who were new to America.  They came from a WARM climate and bam – here they were in the middle of winter!  They use public transport, which means a lot of walking to and from busses and metros. 

Kindness money was used to buy them a cuddly blanket and a nice pair of warm boots for the man (a student).  Because of kindness funds, he can now walk to and from transportation without freezing his feet!

Kindness money spent:  $59.80

A local elementary school contacted me about a program they run.  They were arranging Thanksgiving meals for families that did not have them, and wondered if Kindness Activist could pitch in.  WHY OF COURSE!  That is exactly what Kindness funds are for!  I pitched in some Kindness money and the organizers were so thankful.  Because of the yard sale donations, many families were able to have tasty meals.

Kindness money spent:  $200

And finally for this update, Kindness funds were used to help a visitor to America SPREAD KINDNESS. 

My friend Ixi is from Guatemala, and her parents came to visit to meet their new grandson!  Her father is very active in his faith community back home, and had connected with a priest in Arlington on a previous visit that he really liked.  So even though he was here visiting and on vacation – he set up a MEAL for people around the church!  They wrote: 

“Saturday November 27 - Thanksgiving day in Virginia, USA.  Faith in Action, along with the Hispanic Church of Clarendon, shared the Bible and served 85 lunches to Central Americans living in difficult situations in this country. God was Glorified. thank you everyone who contributed God bless you and multiply.”

The JOY of spreading KINDNESS

Kindness money spent: $100

That’s it for this update.  There are MANY more stories to be told, and I promise to get to them!  These funds are not MINE, but the WORLD’S, and I pledge to be transparent, as always, in how they are used.

Thanks again for all of your support for Kindness Activist.  Let’s keep spreading kindness and watching the kindness ripples form.

Roses, Botas, and MUCH MORE (Kindness Yard Sale Update)

I am pleased to report that more of the money raised at the Kindness Yard Sale has been used to spread kindness!!  Here is an update:

-          $7.99 was used to buy roses.  But not just ANY roses, special roses for a man in hospice to give his wife.  We know them just as the “puzzle couple”, because we always see them sitting at a table in the common room at the hospice putting puzzles together.  They saw us working on another project that I am going to use Kindness Yard Sale money for (I have not done it yet…) and asked what we were doing.  I explained it had to do with roses, and the woman smiled.  The man said that he didn’t want any flowers, thank you very much.  So, I said, “Well, what if I gave you a flower for you to give to your WIFE???”.  That idea seemed to make him happy!  His wife looked at me and deadpanned, “Well, if that happened, it would be the THIRD time in 51 years he gave me flowers!  The first time was when our first child was born.  I stayed in the hospital for 2 days and when he came to pick me up the flowers were dying.  He said they were a WASTE OF MONEY!  So, for the next baby, he bought me a PLANT.  He only gave me flowers one other time, for a Valentine’s Day”.  They are a very sweet couple and I knew it would make her happy to get flowers from her sweetheart one more time, so I picked up these roses.  I had him write her a note and tied it to the flowers.  He told me to leave them on the puzzle table where she would be sure to see them.  She was excited to be treated (and he seemed proud to be able to spoil her a bit, I am sure she is the one usually doing all of the caretaking since HE is the patient).

3rd time's a charm - 3rd time to give his wife flowers in 51 years

-          $42.09 was spent on boots, 2 hats, 1 pair of mittens and 1 pair of gloves.  This kind act was actually hard to pull off!!!  I am living in Omaha temporarily and it is very cold.  There has already been ice and snow.  I decided that I really wanted to use some of the kindness money to outfit a child for winter – coat, hat, snow pants, boots, whatever they needed!   With most of the other kind acts in this project, I have tried to not make them “need based” – because everyone loves to receive kindness, no matter if they NEED it or not!!  But for this particular one, I really hoped to find someone who NEEDED respite from the cold temperatures. 

      So, I headed to Walmart to try and find someone shopping for a coat.  But even though I strolled around and around that store for an hour, NO ONE was shopping for coats!  No one in the men’s, women’s, kid’s or baby sections!  I tried again another night at a different Walmart.  Then again at a Target.  Then a 3^rd Walmart!  I told my sister that apparently EVERYONE in Omaha already has a coat, because no one seemed to be shopping for them!!  But one night I finally found two little someones one that needed warmth.  

      A man, woman, and two little girls were walking through Walmart.  They were speaking Spanish and I saw them looking at warm work gloves for the father.  I noticed that both little girls had on old, dirty coats, but no hats.  In fact, the smallest girl was BAREFOOT. 

It was a freezing cold night, and this little child had naked, dirty feet.  It made me so sad. But             those little girls were not sad!  Quite the opposite, they were having a very fun time out 

shopping with their parents.  They giggled and ran and played while their parents shopped.

I wasn’t quite sure how to ask if I could buy the kids hats.  It wasn’t only the linguistic barrier – I wanted to make sure the parents felt RESPECTED and not pitied.  I picked up a couple warm hats that I thought the little girls might like.  One came with a pair of gloves, and I grabbed a matching set of mittens to go with the other hat.  Then I found some courage and went over to the family.  I only have rudimentary Spanish, so I could not really ask them properly if it would be ok for me to buy them the hats and mittens.  But I asked in English and a bit of broken Spanish, then gestured a lot and showed them the items.  The little girls’ eyes lit up!  They look at their mother for permission, and she smiled at me and nodded “yes”.  I told them (gestured…) to stay where they were and I would go buy the items and bring them back to them.  Which is exactly what happened!  I bought them, found the girls, and sat down with them right there in that Walmart aisle to take all of the tags off of their new stuff!  They put those hats and mittens/gloves right on and gave me 2 very big smiles!  It was beautiful!!

Pretty PINK winter wear

But that left the more obvious problem to deal with – the tiny barefoot girl…  She needed boots for winter, but I didn’t want to make her parents feel bad for bringing her out in public with no shoes on.  But I decided I couldn’t ignore it, and gestured to her feet and asked, “Boots??  Yes??”.  The mother smiled again and nodded, and I gestured to the girls to FOLLOW ME!!  The 3 of us marched Pied Piper-like to the shoe department.  They were all smiles and big eyes.  I asked the mom which size and we narrowed down our search to that size.  I started with SHINY PINK ones, which the little girl seemed happy with.  But I didn’t want her to take the 1^st pair I put in front of her – I wanted HER to pick her new boots!!  Eventually she spied these tan Ugg-style boots and pointed to them.  She and I sat down on the floor again and I put her dirty, naked little feet into those soft boots.  She smiled and modeled them.  Then we repeated the routine – they wait, I buy, I return.  I told the mom I knew the word “zapatas” for “shoes” in Spanish, but what was the word for “boots”?  “BOTAS!” the mom and girls gleefully told me!!!

As I finished my shopping I saw my new friends giggling in an aisle, new botas and all.

BOTAS!

 -  $5 was left on a bathroom wall!!  I met a friend for brunch at a hip Denver restaurant called “The Corner Office”.  After dining on delicious red velvet waffles, I excused myself to go to the restroom.  There I found this great wall full of colorful sticky notes, and extra sticky paper and pens to leave your own note!  Perfect!  So, I hung this:  I would’ve loved to be a fly on the wall when someone found it and seen what they decided to use it for.

FUN bathroom!

I wonder who found it...

   -  $51.04 was used to help make an immigrant’s Christmas more joyful.  My sister is living in a hospice house, and the cleaner there named Angelique is a sweet, elderly African woman.  She doesn’t speak much English, but always has a nice smile.  One day I figured out from the accent she has when she speaks English that perhaps FRENCH is her native tongue.  I called my sweetheart (who is fluent in French) and he played on-phone translator for me and Angelique!  She was so excited when he spoke French to her! 

She is from Congo and has no family here.  She told me, “You are my family”.  She does not interact much with the other staff or guests here that I see, and I imagine she may be quite lonely in America by herself.  So, I got a $50 gift card to Walmart and a nice card to surprise her!  Walmart is very near the hospice house and I bet she shops there sometimes.  I hope her holiday season is a little bit brighter because of this kindness.

A sweet gift for a sweet woman

- $5 was used to “help kids that don’t have moms and dads”.  My friend Tanya has two adorable little boys, and one of them, Sam, posted a plea video on Facebook. 

I mean, after seeing THAT, how could I NOT share some of the kindness money with him??  He was doing a super kind thing of HIS OWN!!!  Sam surpassed his monetary goal and is well on his way to being an amazingly kind human.    

-          $20 was donated to help a woman rebuild her café after everything for it was stolen.  Her name is Sandra Rivers and she is a CODA, child of Deaf adults.  She had a dream to build a café where Deaf people could socialize and there would not be linguistic barriers.  Her own parents have died, but she wanted to build “Deaf Delight” for other Deaf people.  Just 3 days before her insurance for the business started, she was robbed of everything.  She has not given up her dream, but she used her life savings to buy the equipment that was stolen, so is hoping to fundraise money to start over. 

-          $5 was used to purchase then donate a handmade bead that will be used in the “Beads of Courage” program.  I had never heard of the organization before but they had a booth set up at an art event that we went to and they sound amazing!  Participating hospitals give each child who has to undergo procedures (pokes and sticks) a handmade bead for each procedure!  Kids who have very serious illnesses have looong strings of beads!  The children can play with them, wear them, or just use them as a symbol of comfort and strength for all they have been through.   See more about this unique program here:  Beads of Courage website

-          And finally for this report, $41.07 was used to “Be a Santa to a Senior”.  A grocery store had a Christmas tree with paper ornaments adorning it.  Each ornament had a “wish list” from a senior citizen of what they would like for the holiday.  I looked the wishes over and decided to choose Paul.  His wants were very simple – a book and one white t-shirt.  

Tree of Senior wishes

      On the other ornaments people were hoping for things like iPads and DVD players, but Paul must be a simple man who enjoys simple pleasures.  I liked that!  And I figured, since he didn’t ask for much, I should spoil him a bit…  So instead of ONE white t-shirt, he got a whole pack.  Plus the book he wanted (which looks good by the way).  Plus a box of chocolates.  Plus 2 fancy candy canes.  HAPPY HOLIDAYS PAUL! 

Paul is a man who knows what he wants.

Another $10 donation came in (thanks!!!), bringing the total raised for Kindness from the yard sale and donations to $1565.76.  $24.26 of that remains to be used, and there is a bit that has already been used but not written about here yet!  If you would like to help this project continue, donations of any amount are appreciated.  You can PayPal them to:  thompsongaines@msn.com or contact me at kindnessactivist@gmail.com . 

I hope this project inspires YOU to go out into the world and spread kindness.  Because every little bit makes the world a better place.