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Showing posts with label volunteer. Show all posts
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Saturday, July 27, 2024

Kindness Activist Volunteer Series - TERESA

This is the first in a series of interviews with Kindness Activist volunteers.  Without volunteers, our work would not be possible.  We are so grateful for each and every person who gives of their time and talent so that kindness ripples can be spread!


First up – TERESA.


Teresa has helped with many, many Kindness Activist events.  She joins the annual “elf brigade” and wraps many, many beautiful gifts for the Santa Project.  She helps out at all of the fundraising sales (when she is in town, and she is always sad if a sale happens when she is off exploring the world).  She knits beautiful hats for Project Warmth.  And much more!  But today, we are going to talk with her about a very important volunteer role she holds at Kindness Activist – PANTRY CREW!  She and I took time out from sorting donations and sat down to have a conversation recently.


Teresa reminded me that in the beginning, she worked with another very kind woman, Julia, to sort and organize pantry donations.  “We did a purge of all of the expired foods.  Then we labeled the shelves and bins so that it was a little more orderly,” she explained.  “We marked on every single box on the shelves the expiration dates.”


Flashback for me to walking down to get food for the pantry after Teresa and Julia worked their magic.  It was so very organized – cans with small white, hand written labels of expiration dates (because it is often hard to read the labels stamped on the top/bottom).  This was back when we were just starting the Little Yellow Free Pantry, and we did not have many guests yet.  We had signs up saying things like, “Need food?  Free groceries!” with a location of where to come.  We had them translated into 4 or 5 languages and hung them around on our fence and at nearby bus stops.  It is funny to think about it now, but 3 ½ years ago when the pantry started, I was afraid it wouldn’t take off and we wouldn’t have enough guests.  The task of putting dates on cans is no longer needed since we go through donations so quickly.


When things got busier, the Pantry Crew was born and Teresa became a member.  I asked her what she liked about volunteering for Kindness Activist. “I like helping other people.  There are many people who are food insecure.  Having a place where they can come and select what they want is a wonderful thing for the community.  If I can help facilitate that, I will.”



Like many kind humans, Teresa volunteers at several places.  “I volunteer for Monday night distribution at two street corners near Arlington Mill.  The food comes from Food for Others.  Then I volunteer at the Clothesline for Arlington’s kids (a service that gives free good quality clothing to school age children).  I go into the shop and help clients select clothing. I also knit hats and scarves for Clothesline, and I have also brought some over for Kindness Activist’s Project Warmth and given some to Casa Mariflor (a local organization that assists mostly Latinx community members and immigrants).”


The truth is, not many Americans take the time to help out like Teresa does.  I asked her why she is willing to get involved so much with volunteering.  “I’ve done it for many, many years.  I was a Peace Corps volunteer in the ‘80s.  So, I’ve been volunteering when I can for years!  It’s a feel-good feeling for me.”


Ahhh, such a good point, and one people who have not volunteered may not have experienced.  Helping – volunteering - not only helps others, it also makes YOU feel good.  That a bonus that can’t be overlooked.


“Have you met any pantry guests?” I asked.  “There is the Lentil Man," she answered.  "And just last week a man came who was moving out.  He brought all of these packages of fancy beans and things from Whole Foods or Mom’s Organic Market.”


I posed a question that other Pantry Crew members and I have mulled over – what is your favorite thing to put in the pantry?


“Lately, the canned mango slices look really good,” was Teresa’s answer.  “I am a vegetarian, but I put in a wide variety, including proteins, so that people can choose.”


“I am thrilled that there are so many wonderful donors that keep the shelves full.  That allows the Crew to keep the Pantry full.  And I like the fact that there are birthday parties for the pantry.  I make a point of donating goods at that time.”


Handmade birthday card given to the Little Yellow Free Pantry from a neighbor


On a recent stop for Pantry Duty, Teresa found the bright yellow shelves completely bare.  “There was not a lick – not even one CAN,” she said.  “You think the vegetables won’t go, but they do eventually.  When I used to volunteer at AFAC (Arlington Food Assistance Center) I learned that canned corn is popular.”  So true – canned corn is the most popular veg at the Little Yellow Free Pantry, too.


“I love to volunteer with your activities because I love the concept of Kindness Activist.  You and David are such amazing people.  Helping in whatever way – you put out a call – if I am free, I’m coming because I want to spread kindness like you.  It’s a ripple!”


And with that, Teresa and I got into a “You’re amazing,” feud.  “You’re amazing!”  “No, YOU’RE amazing!!”


“Well, you allow me to be amazing.  Because of your activities.  I wouldn’t be as amazing if I didn’t have all of these different options available to me.”


Thank you, amazing Teresa.  Your support and gift of time help Kindness Activist thrive.  We appreciate you!


If you would like to volunteer with Kindness Activist, please get in touch.  Email us at:  KindnessActivist@Gmail.com .  We are often looking for volunteers for various projects (though the Pantry Crew is full at the moment 😊 ). 


And if you would like to help out by donating to the Little Yellow Free Pantry, the Amazon Wishlist can be found here:  Kindness Activist Pantry Wishlist .   If you are local to the DC Metro and would like to drop off pantry items (shelf stable, unopened, unexpired food and/or full sized unopened unexpired toiletries), please do not put them directly in the pantry.  Instead, leave them in the plastic donation bin on our front porch.  Email for the address if needed.


Saturday, September 30, 2023

Amazon Kindness

Here’s the thing; I believe that people really WANT to be kind.


I think it is an inherent thing, maybe baked into our DNA.


We want to be kind.  But sometimes, we don’t know how.  We don’t see the opportunities.  We feel there is nothing WE can do.  We are too busy, too tired, too overworked, too OVERWHELMED with life to seek out ways to be kind.


But when presented with opportunity, many, many people jump at the chance to be kind. And that fact warms my heart and keeps my work as a Kindness Activist going.


Case in point: over the last 18 or so months I have been working on the skill of delegating.  This is a tough one for me.  I have always unconsciously been of the “the only way to do it right is to do it myself” mentality, but I’ve been working to unravel that thread in my head.  One way I have done that is by outright asking for volunteers. 


That is hard to do…  It is admitting you need help.  Admitting that you CAN’T do it all yourself.


But in the ASKING, you are also OFFERING.  You are offering an opportunity for others to be kind!  And that might be just what they are looking for!!!


This week I asked for help laminating a big pile of signs (signs that I had previously asked for help making and a lovely neighbor took on the task!).  A volunteer popped up right away for laminating – she came and picked up the signs and returned them perfect and lovely - all laminated - the very next day!  I also asked for help breaking down a big donation of rice into smaller sealed packets for the pantry.  Several people volunteered for that task and a mom and her son came over and did it. 


See, people want to be kind.  Kindness can be a gift of support, of help, of time.  I am going to keep trying to improve my skill of offering those opportunities to be kind to the world.


I was fortunate to witness a great act of kindness today!!  You may have seen me mention the Amazon man who bid in the online Kindness Auction.  If you haven’t heard of him, here is the story in a nutshell (then the act of kindness after I catch everyone up on who he is!):


We are hosting a huge community-wide yard sale October 14 and 15.  It is a fundraiser for Kindness Activist, an organization whose mission is simple – SPREAD KINDNESS.  Many, many people in the community donate items to be sold at the fundraiser and shoppers pay what they wish, with the understanding that all money raised will be used for kind acts.


The yard sale was supposed to be in September but got postponed due to rain.  That postponement means another month of our porch being full of boxes and donations.  Another month of having to put ropes up in front of the porch to “subtly” tell passersby that even though it may look like our porch is a yard sale, it is not open yet.


We get a lot of Amazon deliveries because kind people all over the country order from our Amazon wish list and send items to fill the Little Free Pantry outside our home.  So, it is not unusual for Amazon delivery drivers to be on our porch. 


But recently an unlikely interaction with an “Amazon man” happened.  The doorbell rang and my partner David answered.  An Amazon man was standing on the porch and had peered through the front door and spied a Messe Football/Soccer jersey hanging in our dining room.


“I want to buy that!” he told David.  David explained to him the sale was not on yet, and that the jersey in question was not for sale, but it was up for auction in an online auction.  He told him how it all worked and the man gave David his phone number so that we could send him the auction link.


We texted back and forth with him a couple of times, but he never bid.  I thought maybe he lost interest, but then he called us.  He needed help figuring out the system of the auction, so we walked him through it. 


As he was registering, he told us that he had played soccer his whole life and Messi is his favorite player.  He really “needed” that jersey!  He was so excited at the possibility of getting it!


When he finally got into the auction he placed his bid - $14.  Then he quickly placed a second bid - $15.  “You just outbid yourself!” I explained, laughing.  “I know!  But I WANT THAT JERSEY!  I am going to put $20!!” he exclaimed as he upped his bid again.


“Ohhh, there are MORE THINGS in the auction!!” he said.  He started to scroll as we talked and expressed interest in some jewelry.  “I am from Ethiopia, and I am going home soon to get married.  This jewelry would be very nice for my fiancé!”.


We enjoyed chatting with him a bit, then wished him a good night.  The concept of an auction seemed new to him, so David reminded him to keep an eye out for messages to see if he got outbid and needed to bid again (though secretly David told me he was going to keep bidding for the Amazon man if someone outbid him, because we were squarely in the TEAM AMAZON MAN corner by that point!).


The auction ended – Amazon man was the winner of the jersey.  We were really psyched for him.  When we woke up the next morning we found a text that had popped in at 1:48 am.  It was from him and simply read, “Halleluiah”. 


Now, here comes the first act of kindness in this story (well, really it’s the second, because the jersey itself was donated by a kind person!).  Anyway, another bidder, a friend, had seen my mention of the Amazon man in a post.  She contacted me and said, “If it was the Amazon driver who won the jersey for $20, I would like to pay for it”.


Isn’t that so sweet and KIND???


We didn’t tell the Amazon man that someone was treating him until he showed up this morning to pick up his jersey.  I brought it out to him, and he had the biggest smile!  “It is REAL!  It is FIFA!” he exclaimed.  I showed him that it was brand new, and he held it up proudly.  As David snapped this photo of him, the driver of a passing car honked and said, “Hey, I want one, too!” and we all laughed.



Then I told him the news that someone else had already paid for him.  He was stunned!  I explained that the auction was raising money to be used to spread kindness, and someone had given him an act of kindness by covering his cost.  He couldn’t believe it and was so thankful.


We talked a bit.  He showed us photos of his beautiful fiancé, who he will bring to America from Ethiopia this November. 


And before he left to start work for the day, he said, “May I still donate the $20??”.  I told him he did not need to, that his purchase was paid for already.  But he wanted to.  He wanted to help spread kindness, too!


So, this sweet man, this man who works very hard for a living driving and hauling heavy boxes, this man who is probably saving money to pay for his fiancé’s airline ticket and wedding expenses, reached into his pocket and donated $20.


And if that isn’t kind, I don’t know what is.


Sunday, October 9, 2022

2022 Kindness Yard Sale TOTAL!!

There are fund raisers, and there are FUND RAISERS.

And the 2022 Kindness Yard Sale was a FUND RAISER!

And now that the chaos of the sale is (mostly) over, we took tonight to celebrate. We thanked many of the amazing people who have helped out with Kindness Activist projects – not only the yard sale, but many other things, too.  We held a thank you party at Acme, our local pie shop run by the very sweet Sol Schott.  The restaurant was closed so it was just US – eating pie, chatting, laughing, playing pinball, writing down ideas on how to spread kindness using the funds we just raised, and getting “gifts” of leftover items from the yard sale (anyone need a car cell phone charger from 1992???). 

We also had the big reveal – the announcement of how much was raised at the Kindness Yard Sale, including the online auction and the in-person auction.  So many people have been asking, “How much did we raise???”, and it seemed fitting to announce it at a gathering of so many people who rolled up their sleeves and made the work successful.

I am pleased and proud to announce that the 2022 Kindness Yard Sale (and auctions) raised a total of $27,871!!!!!  That is so, so much more than I could’ve ever imagined – we more than doubled the total from 2021!

The assistants help out with the BIG REVEAL!

That money will go such a very long way in spreading kindness!  I have many, many ideas swirling around in my head on how we can start kindness ripples, and I can’t wait to read the ideas people at the event wrote down tonight.  

A few more photos from the thank you party:


                                                     








Here is how we have already begun spreading kindness with this year’s funds:

We actually started using the 2022 funds before the sale was even over!!  A group of high school students in Wakefield t-shirts were looking around the sale.  They chose some items, and when they came up to purchase them, I asked, “Hey, aren’t you supposed to be out fund raising for your music program today??? (someone had told me that was their day to ask the community to donate)”.  OOPS – they got caught shopping!  But all was well – we rang the cowbell, turned on the gold microphone, people cheered, and Kindness Activist made a $25 donation to the Wakefield Music Program! 

Total spent:  $25 

Another related to the Kindness Yard Sale; my friend Whitney was volunteering in the in-person auction area at the sale.  One of the items up for auction was a tv that had been donated.  It was nice – had a large screen – but was not a “smart” tv.  Some people signed up to bid on it, including a man that Whitney told me was really nice.  She had talked to him and his family and she said they were super sweet and seemed very deserving of a television (they currently didn’t have one).  Well, he didn’t win the tv in the auction.  But that was a-ok, because we used Kindness Activist funds to get him a brand new smart tv!!  He was very surprised and thankful when he came over to pick it up.

 

A brand new smart TV!

Total spent:  $321.59

We were at Trader Joe’s at closing time recently and decided to treat someone in line to their groceries.  I bought a $50 gift card and then perused the line to pick a lucky person to give it to.  As I was wondering who to choose, a woman in line spoke to me about something I was purchasing.  She was chatty and nice, and that made it easy to know who to surprise with the gift card!!  It was also fun that the groceries she had in her cart looked like they would total right around $50.  She couldn’t believe what had happened to her!  As we left I saw her telling an employee about her good fortune 😊 .

A gift card for one lucky shopper!

Total spent:  $50

And finally for this report, FLOWERS.  A neighbor has been studying to be a nurse and it came time for her to take the big exam.  She was understandably nervous for the test and studied a lot the month before.  So, we used $80 of Kindness Activist funds to get her a huge bouquet of gorgeous flowers to wish her well. 

 


Total spent:  $80

I owe a huge, huge thank you to so many people.  Thank you to all of you who:

Donated items

Sorted items

Hung clothing

Organized storage units

Hauled from storage to sale

Got us a free storage unit

Put up a whole auction website

Made signs

Set up sale

Sold lemonade

Worked at sale

Shopped at sale

Tore down sale

Sorted empty hangers

Broke down boxes

Hauled trash

Fed us

Supported us – kept me from pulling all of my hair out

Took great photos

Donated food for the Little Yellow Free Pantry

Organized storage for the Little Yellow Free Pantry

Filled the pantry when we were out of town

Grew plants

Sold plants

Suggested ideas for kindness

Brought us wine

Supported me when internet bullies were being mean

Entertained with jokes and magic tricks

Sent encouraging messages

Wrapped tons of Christmas gifts

Cleaned our porches

Hauled things to Goodwill, Little Free Libraries, and other places

Interpreted

Made phone calls for me to people who I couldn’t communicate with

Did grocery runs for special requests that came into the pantry

Helped decide the value of items (thanks to Google)

Came to vigils

Danced on corners

Voted in the daily polls

Helped Kindness Activist get more media attention

Suggested great ideas

And I am sorry to anyone who worked long and hard volunteering but got missed on the invite list for the thank you party tonight.  The pie shop is small – we might need a bigger venue for the 2023 thank you event!

Monday, November 14, 2016

Louisiana Kindness

Most of us look at federal holidays as a DAY OFF WORK.  Holidays are a day to sleep in, maybe go skiing, hit the mall, etc.

But Stephanie isn’t “most of us”.  No, Stephanie heard “holiday” and she thought something like, “Time to organize some friends, hit the road, and HELP OUT”.  Yes, it’s people like Stephanie that jump in and get things done, KIND THINGS, when they need doing.  But here’s the thing, she doesn’t want to brag about it…  She isn’t in it for the attention.  She told me, “My father taught me and my sister the importance of random acts of kindness as a daily task, a way of life - even if it’s just smiling at a stranger. It’s just so natural to me to want to get involved and do what I can that it makes me feel a tad silly that it’s considered “special” somehow, you know?”  Oh, I KNOW what you mean, girl, but I truly believe that if other people hear about your kindness, they will be inspired to get out there and spread some kindness around themselves!  So, as awkward as it felt, she agreed to let me share her story.  Here’s the scoop:

In 2005 Hurricane Katrina wrought devastation on Louisiana.  Stephanie, a Texan and single mom of 3 year old Grace, was supposed to go on a vacation that Labor Day weekend, the first one she had been able to afford in quite a while.  Only, instead of going on vacation, she took Grace with her and they volunteered at a grassroots relief organization in South Austin.  How is THAT for a model of kindness and compassion for a child?  They helped the organization work on transportation, relocation of victims, and other things that the big organizations were ill equipped to handle. 

Fast forward to 2016.  Louisiana is hit by another terrible flood.  Grace, the little girl who helped her mom work on flood relief in Louisiana from afar 11 years ago, is now 14 and has been joined by toddler sister Ilona.  Being a single mom of two, Stephanie couldn’t just write a check to help with the relief effort and call it a day (and something tells me that isn’t her style, anyway…) so she set about ORGANIZING.  Ilona would go spend Labor Day weekend with her father, and the “big girls” would head out of town to help out doing physical labor. 

Road Trip - but devastation on the side of the road
Stephanie started researching and found her friend Patty, who lives in New Orleans, was working on some of the hardest hit areas.  Well there you go – plan hatched!  Stephanie and her friend Cara (from North Texas) rounded up what she calls “10 phenomenal humans” from Texas (mostly Austin) to work on “mucking and gutting a house in Louisiana”.

Let me just reiterate here:  this was LABOR DAY WEEKEND.  The rest of us were roasting hot dogs and shopping mattress sales, and this amazing group was making an 11 hour drive to help strangers deal with an awful situation!

Wonderful people housed some of them (even people they had never met were welcome to stay), Patty housed others, and some others found their own accommodation.  Cara had organized a meeting with Hands On, a group that was, “bringing groups of people out to the hardest hit areas to remove damaged belongings and construction material from homes, provide some mold remediation and cleaning”. 

The team of amazing volunteers!  Brian, Xaviera, Scott, Patty, Ellen, Dotti, Cara Ross, Kristine,
Grace (Stephanie's daughter) and our Kindness Activist herself, Stephanie.  Aren't they beautiful??
The team was assigned to work with Mike and Pat on their place in Hammond, LA.  They needed physical help, and these Texans brought it in spades!  The flood had happened 2 – 3 weeks before they arrived on site, which meant that mold had already had time to become a big problem.  Never having been in a serious flood situation myself, I had never thought much about the after effects of mold.  Stephanie explained, “The fall out of a natural disaster is ongoing and usually long after people stop sending aid. People often don't think about how bad mold can be, and how it can cost you truly EVERYTHING (you can contaminate your new lodgings easily with mold - we had to clean everything that was salvageable several times, but honesty, most things went straight to the dump and were a total loss).  It's the mold that definitely makes things much worse. According to FEMA, mold starts forming within 48 hours (Link to FEMA fact sheet here) . Even the houses themselves have to undergo a rigorous detox process, repeatedly- one spore will just restart the process and new items and materials will be contaminated.”

So, the team of friends donned hazmat suits, respirators, masks, goggles, etc. and got to work.  The mobile home had flood saturated carpet, furniture, and appliances that all had to be dealt with.  I asked Stephanie how she thought the owners of the home felt to have so many people willing to volunteer to come and help them.  She said, “Mike and Pat won us over immediately. They were so lovely. We all took some time to sit with them and listen to their stories, their shared histories, their hopes for the future. I know they appreciated what we did and we all left wishing we could have done more.“

They weren't doing what most Americans were that holiday weekend -
they were most certainly MAKING A DIFFERENCE
What a glowing example of kindness for her teenage daughter.  Stephanie told me, “I’m sad that help was needed at all, but grateful to have a chance to work with my amazing friends, who all helped make a tough situation a little less awful. I’m glad that I was able to have the opportunity to give my Grace a chance to be involved and for all the discussions that led up to the trip and all the conversations we’ve had about life after the trip. She was amazing throughout the weekend and I’m glad we could experience it together.”
  
Not many people are willing to sacrifice, pitch in, and give up valuable time to help out strangers.  But Stephanie, Grace, and friends made a HUGE difference that weekend.  They not only helped a family see the light at the end of the tunnel, they showed that couple that they are valued and that someone – 10 someones – care about their plight.

Some of the aftermath - people's possessions ruined
Let’s let Stephanie tie this story up in her own words:  “Life is full of things that we have absolutely no control over. I’m very committed to finding concrete ways that I can help where I can, even if my contribution is very tiny- I know it adds up. As a single mom with two girls, I don’t always have the time or money to be able to do the things I want, to make the change I want to see in the world- but I’m determined to do what I can, as often as I can.

I try to raise my young ladies the way my father raised me and my sister; taking action every chance we get will make the world a better place. I've always been a big fan of this quote, “Hello babies. Welcome to Earth. It’s hot in the summer and cold in the winter. It’s round and wet and crowded. On the outside, babies, you’ve got a hundred years here. There’s only one rule that I know of, babies- ‘God damn it, you’ve got to be kind.’ ”  -Kurt Vonnegut”

You certainly nailed that one, Stephanie.  God damn it, YOU WERE KIND.



Saturday, April 30, 2016

Tax Time Kindness

You know how when you know someone from a certain setting, you sometimes don’t recognize them if you see them in a different place?  Like, maybe you see your hairdresser at the grocery store, and you know you know her, but she isn’t in the “right” place so you aren’t sure who she is…  Well, that is how I imagine it would feel if I saw Kurt Fitzpatrick sitting behind a desk asking me to hand over my receipts for the year so he could do my taxes. 

THIS is how I think of Kurfitz, on STAGE performing...
You see, Kurt is a performer.  I know him from “the Fringe circuit” – he is an artist who travels around doing his shows at Fringe Festivals around North America.  I first met him at a welcome party for out of town artists at the Orlando Fringe.  I remember that he and I were both hovering around the hors d’oeuvre table, a bit uncomfortable in the setting and quietly chowing down on veggies and dip.  He introduced himself and (I am not sure if I ever told him this…) I THOUGHT he said his name was Kurfitz Patrick.  Now that I write it out, I know that makes no sense.  Now I know, now I know…  But at the time, I thought I had just met a guy named Kurfitz, which was pretty cool!  So my partner David and I still privately refer to him as Kurfitz Patrick anytime we mention him.  (Now you know Kurfitz!!)


I also think of Kurfitz like THIS - riding on a blue jackalope.
Cuz that is the sort of thing I think of him doing.
I have seen Kurt do 5 of his original shows (“Hooray for Speech Therapy”, “Best Picture”, “The Last Straight Man in Theatre), “Bromance” (where David and I got to do a walk-on), and “Dancing in the Mist”.  I have hung out with him in beer tents and theatres.  And I know that he also does work on TV shows and movies.  So when I saw him post on Facebook that he was volunteering to do TAXES for low income people, I had to read the post again.  KURFITZ DOING TAXES FOR PEOPLE??  FOR FREE?? Huh???  That bit of news necessitated some question asking.  And what I learned is, Kurfitz is a kind guy.  Well, I already knew THAT.  What I learned was, he deserves to be named a Kindness Activist.  Here’s the scoop:

Kurt usually lives in New York/New Jersey, but he fell in looooove (something I was really happy about) and moved to Seattle to be with his sweetheart.  They lived there a while, then decided to come back to NJ.  But it was the off-season for touring performers so he needed a way to make money.  The background acting gigs and stand-in jobs weren’t cutting it.  He told me: 


    “I realized how much I enjoy doing my own personal         
    finances.  It’s weird, but I get an odd thrill out of budgeting 
    and organizing receipts, etc., but I have never used that 
    skill outside of producing my own work. I thought, “Hey, I 
    can do taxes!  But do I have to be an accountant?”  An 
    accountant friend of mine said, “No!” and I said, “Good! 
    Because I’m not!”.  He recommended that I walk into an 
    H&R Block and say, “I want to become a tax preparer. Will 
    you hire me and train me?”.  So I put together a nifty 
    resume and walked into my local H&R Block and said just 
    that. They said, “No. You have to take our class in 
    September to work here.” Well, it was January…

Kurt looking all actor-y.  Who knew he can also look TAX-Y?
    
    In years past (Kurt continued) I have volunteered through 
    New York Cares. I would tutor kids in the early mornings
    to help them with their reading, deliver food to the elderly, 
    and teach kids how to swim on the weekends. But I had 
    been out of New York quite a bit the last two years, so I 
    hadn’t done much with New York Cares. A friend of mine 
    told me about the IRS’s VITA program, which is free tax 
    preparation for lower income people. New York Cares 
    partners with that program. To do taxes for this program, 
    you have to study up on information on the IRS site, take 
    an exam, and get at least 80% on it. The exam is “open 
    book,” and you can take as long as you want, but that 
    doesn’t make it easier considering all the data and 
    information you have to wade through and process. I got 
    cocky and figured I would take the advanced exam, but I 
    failed it, and you only get two tries. I passed the basic 
    exam and that was enough to be qualified to volunteer. 
    When I was halfway through tax season, I retook the 
    advanced and passed.”
Isn't that cool? I mean, I also like doing budgeting and paying bills, but you don't see ME studying the IRS website and helping other people complete tax forms... I asked Kurfitz about getting into tax preparation and the time required to do it and he said, “It was a huge commitment to learn how to do to it. The other volunteers had some kind of background in finance, but I'm an actor for crying out loud. That doesn't scream "qualified" in the financial world. But this is how I've always been in my life - I throw myself into things, no matter how odd it seems, and sometimes I predictably fail and other times I surprisingly flourish. The volunteer sessions themselves have been every other Saturday during tax season. For a full Saturday, I'd be in Brooklyn preparing returns."

No, this is not Kurt in Brooklyn on his way to do taxes...  It is him in his "Best Picture" costume.  Lookin' good!
Seriously KIND.  Giving up an entire Saturday to help people do their taxes!  I mean, not a lot of people would be willing to do that.  And Kurfitz wants to do it again next year.  He wisely says, “I could have taken a class or learned from a book. I like that I learned more and more by helping people.”  And how do the people who come to the program to get their taxes done feel?  “I think they are pleased that such a service is offered, but I don’t take credit for it. If they are getting a refund, I’m not giving them the money and if they owe money, I’m not the one getting it. It’s a complex system and I’m just there doing my thing the best I can.”
Then, in true Kurfitz Patrick style, he proceeded to tell me a story about doing taxes that made me laugh out loud.  “The people I meet can be interesting. I have had several people who don’t speak English and a translator is provided. They bring their kids as well, and the kids and the translator will get bored and get up and do things and you have to at least wrangle the translator back. I had a woman who grossed $200 last year who didn’t speak English and spent the entire time smiling at me as if she wanted to eat me. I was flattered yet terrified. One woman came here from Canada to take care of her aunt, and her aunt would not allow herself to be claimed as a dependent. Bitch!”
Oh Kurfitz, only you would be flattered that a woman smiled at you like she wanted to eat you…

Kurt adding his head to Mt. Rushmore.
So now that I have written this story up and dubbed Kurfitz a Kindness Activist, I realize:  I don’t think he ever really solved the issue of needing a bit more income to make it through the off-season of performing!!  I mean, volunteering is super kind and all, but it doesn’t help pay the mortgage.  Oh well, I guess next year when tax season rolls around again Kurfitz will be super good at filling out his own taxes, plus the forms for low income people he assists.  J  Way to be kind, dude. 
Kurt is about ready to start his 2016 tour of “Best Picture”.  If you are in London (Ontario), Ottawa, Victoria BC, Vancouver, or Toronto make sure you check the show out!  You can learn more about his work at:  www.KurtFitzpatrick.com .  And hey, follow him on Twitter: @kurt_fitz because he is a funny guy! 

If you know of a Kindness Activist, please, please, please tell me about them!  Email me at:  kindnessactivist@gmail.com 

Bonus photo!  Kurt and Xan in their touching production of "Dancing in the Mist"

Tuesday, April 19, 2016

Children's Books Kindness

Sure, most of us enjoy reading a children’s book aloud to a child.  You get to do the funny voices, you have an appreciative audience, and the books are usually sweet and fun.  But most of us DO NOT commit to reading to children as much as the lovely Rick Wasserman does.  Here is his story:

Rick in the studio
Rick is an actor in Los Angeles.  He does a lot of voice-over work.  In fact, I would bet you have heard his voice, you just didn’t know who it was.  Take a listen:

Short promo - listen until the end - that is RICK!

Yup, Rick is a big deal.  (My words, not his.  But he IS a big deal!)  He is the 10 year “signature voice” of AMC Network. Remember the “Better Call Saul” commercials telling you about the next episode??  Or how about “The Walking Dead”??  Yup, those were Rick.  He also does voice-over work for many other networks, cartoons, animation, commercials, video games, documentaries, and movie trailers.  So see, a BIG DEAL.   J  (Note:  all you “Better Call Saul” junkies out there, do NOT spoil it for me!  We are in the middle of season one.)

And not only is he busy PROFESSIONALLY, he also has a beautiful wife and two adorable sons.  He loves magic and cooking.  I tell you this to explain:  Rick has a lot of stuff to do, he is a busy person!  It is not like he is just sitting by the swimming pool drinking margaritas…  And yet…

Rick and his awesome family
For the last four years Rick has volunteered his time to go to UCLA’s Mattel Children’s Hospital in Los Angeles and read books to patients.  Once a month.  For FOUR YEARS.  He started by working with a group of professional voice-over artists called PRIMETIME VOICES FOR CHILDREN, led by popular VO artist Joe Cipriano (who Rick calls a “fine human being”). Here is how Rick tells the story of his introduction to reading at the hospital: 

“The idea was that we’d make a recording of us voicing THE NIGHT BEFORE CHRISTMAS, each artist taking a couple of sentences. The sales of the recording would be gifted to the Child Life Center at UCLA's Mattel Children’s Hospital in Los Angeles.  As a special bonus, we were scheduled to perform the story, live, at the hospital for the children on an early December afternoon.  So I went along with the boisterous group a few days before the holidays and we performed and it was very well received.  During that first visit, I noticed that three of the five children I read to didn’t celebrate Christmas. A few didn’t speak English. Some didn’t want to be read to, rather, they just wanted some company. I felt compelled to come back and read to the children again, but with the stories I read to my own kids: short, fun, and provocative.  I asked the head nurse if I could come back by myself with this new plan. I was allowed to return the next month. And the next. Now I am going on my fourth year. I never miss a monthly visit.”

Voice-Over Artists entertaining at the hospital

Rick and team in action 
Isn’t that amazing?  Every single month he gives of his time, his voice, and his heart.  He usually goes alone, but every Christmas the PRIMETIME VOICES group visits and dresses up, reading all sorts of holiday and non-holiday books (and singing carols J ).  I would say that annual visit by those artists is a holiday mitzvah not to be missed!  What a way to give back to their community.  Heck, I am not a patient and he doesn’t sit and read books to me, but every once in a while I see a photo like this of his on Facebook and it makes me smile so big:

Great selection of books, eh?  It would be hard to choose which one I wanted to hear!
I asked Rick about the origins of his visits, which he had never done anything like before, and how the volunteering makes him feel.  He explained it so well: “After I’d been performing voice-overs for about a decade, a close friend asked me if that’s ALL I wanted to do. He said it seemed to him that while VO served me and my family, it didn’t really serve humanity. I am still not sure how I feel about that remark, but it did start me thinking: how can I serve humanity besides throwing money at charities.  The first time I read for the children, I was focused on performing and doing a good job; I probably did that on purpose so I didn’t have to feel all the emotions one might feel surrounded by what the nurses have called “catastrophically ill” patients and their worried and exhausted families. The next time I read to them, I forced myself to connect and open up. It was a very hard visit. I felt like crying and leaving. Each time I visit, I challenge myself to stay open, to stay available…and play. Just play. I try and “read” each room I visit and let the patient dictate how they want to interact. Sometimes I read a story or two. Sometimes we just talk or play a game.  I am pretty good with magic and mentalism, so we often enjoy some fun tricks as well. For better or for worse, I see a lot of the same children during my visits and we both look forward to meeting up again. Many children have passed; I won’t ever get used to that and I don’t want to. I love them.”

Oh I can imagine how excited those “repeat customers” are when they see Rick walk into their room!!  I bet their eyes light up and they are thrilled to have a REAL VISITOR, not someone who is going to take blood or make them do physical therapy.  Sure, those medical treatments are very, very important, but so is feeling like a kid and hearing a story, or watching a magic trick!  I would bet money that those kids are healthier AFTER Rick’s visit than they were before he walked in. 

A thank you card from a kid - super sweet.
I asked Rick how he thinks the kids and their families feel when he visits here is how he described it: “I think the kids get a kick out of my visits. For some, it’s a distraction from their illness and monotony of their daily lives, often being confined to a bed. Many patients equate an adult stranger with someone who is going to poke at their stitches, give them shots, or bring them bad news; so I think I help demonstrate that some adults wanna just have a good time with them…with no pain, anxiety, or fear. Some don’t have family with them, so I can provide them with the comfort of a familiar face. I think they mostly see me as a big kid, a playmate. Parents and siblings are grateful for my visits too. I regularly read to the kids who are unconscious which their families find comforting.”

Click here to hear some of Rick reading "The Frog and the Ox" - it is lovely!

My partner David is a clown with the Big Apple Circus Clown Care Unit at Children’s National Medical Center in Washington DC.  It is a fantastic program that sends clowns into Children’s Hospitals across the country.  I am a firm believer that programs like Clown Doctors, reading to kids, music in hospitals, etc. help the patients and their families.  Heck, I even think it helps the STAFF by giving them a bit of a distraction and something fun to focus on for a moment.  And I am certain that the families of those unconscious patients that Rick reads to are so grateful to have him pay attention to their child, to treat them as normal
How could the sight of this sweet man in your hospital room with this book NOT make you feel better??
Rick told me he can’t see himself not reading to the kids.  To him, it is not difficult and is something he loves.  He explained, “If it provides the kids just a few moments when they are not thinking about being sick in a hospital, then it is well worth it. I like me better when I am with the children. I encourage others to read to children. Kids need the interaction. A TV or phone or tablet is NOT the same. I also never call the kids “soldiers” or “angels” or “special” and I don’t tell them how brave they are: they are tired of hearing that stuff. They just wanna be treated like other kids. That’s how I try and make them feel.” 

To close this out, I must use Rick’s words, for they are much more poignant than anything I could write about his experience, “It is not emotionally easy…but it shouldn’t be. I used to avoid sad music, movies, stories and the like because I don’t like feeling sad. But I have realized it is part of the emotional spectrum. I NEED to feel sad sometimes. Some things are sad.  And as a bonus, feeling the sad makes feeling the happy that much sweeter. When a patient’s health improves, my heart swells. I once visited a child I’d read to many,many times.  When I finished reading a story, her mother nudged her and asked her to tell me her news. She smiled with a big cheeky grin and said, “I got my new heart.” I was honored to be there for that moment.”

Rick, it is an honor to dub you a Kindness Activist.  Thank you for reminding us that we need to experience all stops along the emotional spectrum.  Thank you for using your talent, your voice, and your heart to bring joy and kindness to the children and their families.  You said that the head of PRIMETIME VOICES FOR CHILDREN was a “fine human being”, and I would have to say, sir, that that label definitely applies to YOU as well. 

Are you inspired by Rick's kindness?  Hopefully hearing about his big heart (and big voice) give you ideas about going into YOUR community and BEING KIND!  Make sure to "like" Kindness Activist on Facebook or follow us on Twitter (@KindActivist) so you can be inspired by more Kindness Activists!

Resources:
PRIMETIME VOICES FOR CHILDREN reading “The Night Before Christmas”:  click here
Rick Wasserman website for Bookable VO (study with the best!):  click here
Rick Wasserman on Wikipedia (ok, I fan girled out a bit while writing this one…):  click here

Rick on IMDB:  click her
Big Apple Circus Clown Care:  click here