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Showing posts with label Brenda Dolinski. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Brenda Dolinski. Show all posts

Friday, June 29, 2018

Statue of Kindness


Not gonna lie, I am finding it difficult to see the kindness in the world lately.  There is SO MUCH negativity, so much anger, so much destruction, so much snarkiness.  All of that can be blinding, at least for people who wear their hearts on their sleeves like me. 

So today I am writing a Kindness Activist piece in the hopes that by sitting down and putting my thoughts on "paper" I will be more able to see the KINDNESS that I know is still out there (just hiding from my view).

My cousin Brenda* is one of the kindest people on the planet and often uses her social media to spread information about causes – dogs that are missing, children that are sick, veterans that need help.  Last month she posted something about a statue being stolen from a grave site in Omaha.  And if that isn’t sad enough, it was taken from a CHILD’S GRAVE.  It hurt my heart to think about what that poor family must have thought – they showed up at the grave site for Mother’s Day to find the statue for their little boy was gone.  What kind of mean person does that??

Brayden's grave, with the sweet baseball boy statue before it was stolen
The post had a link to the story on a local news channel:  Local News Story Link

I watched the clip of the story and decided to see if there might be a way to help.  I had a photo of the statue, so I searched online to find a store that might have the same one.  It turned out that Nagel’s Landscaping in St. Paul, Minnesota had it!  I called and they said they could ship it for us.  Of course, it was not a light item to ship, so not cheap. 

Replacement located!  Now how to buy it....
I couldn’t really afford to pay for the statue and shipping myself, so I reached out to friends on social media and in a Facebook group about Kindness.  Before I knew it, we had enough to cover everything!  A complete stranger in the FB group gave a large donation (THANK YOU so much Donna!) and between 7 others we got it all covered. 

Before I could get all of that organized, someone else had gone to the cemetery and replaced the statue with a different one, not quite the same as the one that had been stolen.  Apparently, they cemented it down so that no one could take it (alas, that also means it can’t be replaced with the exact same one that used to be there…).  We decided that even though the grave site now had a new statue, the family might still be happy to get one that looked the SAME as the one that used to be there. 

Replacement ball player, arrived in Nebraska safely!
So, I called the company in Minnesota and they shipped it to my cousin in Nebraska.  She then delivered it to the family, who were overjoyed to get it.  Brenda reported that the mom and her sister cried and hugged her (which is good, as Brenda is an excellent hugger).  The word is that if I get to meet the family the next time I go to Omaha I am scheduled for a hug, too!

The new statue now lives in the family’s garden, where it is a safe and a daily reminder of their little angel. 

Facebook message from the family
This story is a good reminder, to me at least, that even when it feels like the world is full of sadness, if you look hard enough you will see a ray of kindness peeking through.


Thank you note and a photo of the beautiful baby
Be kind.  Please. 

* Here is another Kindness Activist piece featuring my cousin Brenda that I wrote early on in this project.  Like I said, she is super duper kind, and is deserving of many feature articles about her!  83 Pairs of Kindness


Tuesday, February 2, 2016

83 Pairs of Kindness

It’s time to name a new KINDNESS ACTIVIST.  This one is easy – it is Brenda Dolinski.  Choosing her as a Kindness Activist was EASY, but figuring WHICH of her many kind acts to feature was TOUGH!  I hear through the grapevine about kind things she does for those around her very often, but she is very humble.  So when I asked her if she could tell me about one of the kind things she has done lately, she hemmed and hawed and said basically that she has been really busy with life, so hasn’t been able to do as many kind hings as she normally does…  
I call foul!  I know that statement is untrue, Miss Brenda!!  Oh sure, sometimes life gets a little overwhelming, and you might not have time to do the very involved, time consuming acts of kindness that you have done in the past.  But I know YOU and I know that even when you are BUSY, you still spread kindness wherever you go!! 

Brenda with Hershey, a very adorable little pet duck :)
So Brenda sent me an example of a kindness she did recently.  This is one that she basically implied “wasn’t a big deal” because she hadn’t focused much on kindness lately.  Ummm, I beg to differ…  How many OTHER people would think this creatively to both honor a loved one and help their community???  Here is what she told me:
“Every year I try to find something that; a. touches my heart, or b. makes me think outside the box. So when Grandma Ruth said that she, “Didn't want anything for her birthday,” I had the idea to collect socks to donate to one of the local men's homeless shelters in honor of her birthday.
My goal was to collect the same number of pairs of socks as she was celebrating number of years – so I wanted 83 pairs.  Guess what?  I made the goal, plus some.
Now THAT is a lot of socks!!  Lucky guys who will get those!!
I thought, what better to celebrate turning 83 years old – with 83 pairs of socks!!  Grandma Ruth is a Southern lady with a heart of gold. She is the type of person that always sees the best in the worst, and she would give her last dime to a stranger. So I thought that this would be a great gift for honoring such a giving lady.
Some people might think the idea is sort of silly – I mean, they were just SOCKS.  And I don't know who ended up with them after they were donated to the shelter or where they are now.  And do you know what – that is not for me to judge.  What I do know is that Nebraska weather is crazy, and if someone’s feet are in wet, dirty socks it can be painful and can make them very ill.
Grandma Ruth, a real sweetheart and very giving person
Look, in the end they were just pairs of socks - something you and I take for granted when we slide our feet into them in the morning.  But to those guys who got them, I bet they were a real gift.  
Next year maybe we I will coordinate sending care packages to veterans like I did a few years ago, or make blankets for the guys to celebrate Grandma Ruth’s big day. As for me, I am grateful for what I have, and hope a little gesture (like some man getting a new pair of socks) can let people know someone out there was thinking of them.”
I hope that Brenda’s kind actions will inspire YOU to spread some sunshine in the world. Cuz the world needs more kindness, and MORE SOCKS!  Please send me an email and tell me about a kindness you have been a part of (giver or receiver) – email me at kindnessactivist@gmail.com
Thanks for all of the good you do for the world, Brenda.