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Tuesday, July 30, 2024

Kind Kids - Jay and His HAIR!

Shining the light on a KIND KID today!


Meet Jay.  Jay and his family live in our community, and recently his mom Brandi posted some photos of a MAJOR KIND ACT that he did.

Before...

Jay shaved off his hair and donated it so that a child with cancer could get a wig!!


Isn’t that awesome??  I thought it was so cool that I wanted to make sure his story got told – so here it is!


Jay is 10 years old.  Every time I have ever seen him, he has had long hair.  I mean, I think long hair was kind of his thing.  So WHY would he decide to cut it all off and donate it???  I asked him that question, and the answer made sense.


He was inspired by his dad, who donated his hair a while back.  But to me, an adult making this bold, kind move and a kid going for it are 2 completely different things.  Both are kind, of course, but a kid doing it is SUPER KIND, right??


I asked Jay how long he had been growing his hair out.  He got a big grin and said, “5 years.  Half my life!!!”. 



You read that right.  Jay had been growing his hair for half his life, and he was kind enough to cut it all off so that another kid could get a nice wig.  He told me his hair was 12” – 13”, and before it was cut off the stylist put it in a bunch of little pony tails.  And then – buzzzzz – the ponies were cut off with a razor, and Jay left with a fuzzy buzz cut.


Look at all of that hair!


Jay and I talked about some of the reasons kids might need wigs, and how special it is to get one made of real hair.  “Why did you want to donate it?” I asked.  “Well, I felt bad for people who don’t get to have hair.  I just wanted to be kind, cuz I thought somebody might use it.  I didn’t need all that hair!  And my hair grows back, some people’s might not,” he said.  “And how did it feel after it was shaved off??” I asked as a logical follow-up.  “It feels way lighter!  And I’m less hot!” he said with a grin.


After!!!

And lest you think this was a “one and done”, Jay has a plan.  He is going to donate his hair every 2 years!  You read that right, his idea is, “2 years short, 2 years grow, donate,” and repeat.  Isn’t that awesome?


We chatted about being kind in general, and how fun that is.  I know Jay to be a super kind human and have been lucky enough to witness other kind stuff he has done. He told me that sometimes he actively thinks about being kind, and sometimes it “just happens”. 


In closing, Jay had some great words of advice: “If you read this story, then just try and be kind.”


If you are thinking of donating your hair, check out the organization Jay gave his to – Wigs for Kids.  You can find more about them here:  Wigs for Kids

 

And if you know of a kind human and want us to share their story, please let us know!  Send us an email at:  KindnessActivist@gmail.com .  We love to hear kind stuff!  And if you want to learn more about Kindness Activist, just look at our website:  Kindness Activist

 

P.S. - Jay is going to be rocking a "Kind is Cool" Kindness Activist shirt soon, and guess what?  It was designed by ANOTHER KIND KID, Dexter!  

 







Saturday, July 27, 2024

Kindness Activist Volunteer Series - TERESA

This is the first in a series of interviews with Kindness Activist volunteers.  Without volunteers, our work would not be possible.  We are so grateful for each and every person who gives of their time and talent so that kindness ripples can be spread!


First up – TERESA.


Teresa has helped with many, many Kindness Activist events.  She joins the annual “elf brigade” and wraps many, many beautiful gifts for the Santa Project.  She helps out at all of the fundraising sales (when she is in town, and she is always sad if a sale happens when she is off exploring the world).  She knits beautiful hats for Project Warmth.  And much more!  But today, we are going to talk with her about a very important volunteer role she holds at Kindness Activist – PANTRY CREW!  She and I took time out from sorting donations and sat down to have a conversation recently.


Teresa reminded me that in the beginning, she worked with another very kind woman, Julia, to sort and organize pantry donations.  “We did a purge of all of the expired foods.  Then we labeled the shelves and bins so that it was a little more orderly,” she explained.  “We marked on every single box on the shelves the expiration dates.”


Flashback for me to walking down to get food for the pantry after Teresa and Julia worked their magic.  It was so very organized – cans with small white, hand written labels of expiration dates (because it is often hard to read the labels stamped on the top/bottom).  This was back when we were just starting the Little Yellow Free Pantry, and we did not have many guests yet.  We had signs up saying things like, “Need food?  Free groceries!” with a location of where to come.  We had them translated into 4 or 5 languages and hung them around on our fence and at nearby bus stops.  It is funny to think about it now, but 3 ½ years ago when the pantry started, I was afraid it wouldn’t take off and we wouldn’t have enough guests.  The task of putting dates on cans is no longer needed since we go through donations so quickly.


When things got busier, the Pantry Crew was born and Teresa became a member.  I asked her what she liked about volunteering for Kindness Activist. “I like helping other people.  There are many people who are food insecure.  Having a place where they can come and select what they want is a wonderful thing for the community.  If I can help facilitate that, I will.”



Like many kind humans, Teresa volunteers at several places.  “I volunteer for Monday night distribution at two street corners near Arlington Mill.  The food comes from Food for Others.  Then I volunteer at the Clothesline for Arlington’s kids (a service that gives free good quality clothing to school age children).  I go into the shop and help clients select clothing. I also knit hats and scarves for Clothesline, and I have also brought some over for Kindness Activist’s Project Warmth and given some to Casa Mariflor (a local organization that assists mostly Latinx community members and immigrants).”


The truth is, not many Americans take the time to help out like Teresa does.  I asked her why she is willing to get involved so much with volunteering.  “I’ve done it for many, many years.  I was a Peace Corps volunteer in the ‘80s.  So, I’ve been volunteering when I can for years!  It’s a feel-good feeling for me.”


Ahhh, such a good point, and one people who have not volunteered may not have experienced.  Helping – volunteering - not only helps others, it also makes YOU feel good.  That a bonus that can’t be overlooked.


“Have you met any pantry guests?” I asked.  “There is the Lentil Man," she answered.  "And just last week a man came who was moving out.  He brought all of these packages of fancy beans and things from Whole Foods or Mom’s Organic Market.”


I posed a question that other Pantry Crew members and I have mulled over – what is your favorite thing to put in the pantry?


“Lately, the canned mango slices look really good,” was Teresa’s answer.  “I am a vegetarian, but I put in a wide variety, including proteins, so that people can choose.”


“I am thrilled that there are so many wonderful donors that keep the shelves full.  That allows the Crew to keep the Pantry full.  And I like the fact that there are birthday parties for the pantry.  I make a point of donating goods at that time.”


Handmade birthday card given to the Little Yellow Free Pantry from a neighbor


On a recent stop for Pantry Duty, Teresa found the bright yellow shelves completely bare.  “There was not a lick – not even one CAN,” she said.  “You think the vegetables won’t go, but they do eventually.  When I used to volunteer at AFAC (Arlington Food Assistance Center) I learned that canned corn is popular.”  So true – canned corn is the most popular veg at the Little Yellow Free Pantry, too.


“I love to volunteer with your activities because I love the concept of Kindness Activist.  You and David are such amazing people.  Helping in whatever way – you put out a call – if I am free, I’m coming because I want to spread kindness like you.  It’s a ripple!”


And with that, Teresa and I got into a “You’re amazing,” feud.  “You’re amazing!”  “No, YOU’RE amazing!!”


“Well, you allow me to be amazing.  Because of your activities.  I wouldn’t be as amazing if I didn’t have all of these different options available to me.”


Thank you, amazing Teresa.  Your support and gift of time help Kindness Activist thrive.  We appreciate you!


If you would like to volunteer with Kindness Activist, please get in touch.  Email us at:  KindnessActivist@Gmail.com .  We are often looking for volunteers for various projects (though the Pantry Crew is full at the moment 😊 ). 


And if you would like to help out by donating to the Little Yellow Free Pantry, the Amazon Wishlist can be found here:  Kindness Activist Pantry Wishlist .   If you are local to the DC Metro and would like to drop off pantry items (shelf stable, unopened, unexpired food and/or full sized unopened unexpired toiletries), please do not put them directly in the pantry.  Instead, leave them in the plastic donation bin on our front porch.  Email for the address if needed.


Monday, July 1, 2024

Just Be Kind

One thing about having a neon green sign on your front porch that reads “Just Be Kind” is that it marks your home as a safe space.  And that was never any more apparent than this evening.


I was sitting at the dining room table writing when the front door opened.  I assumed it was my partner David, but when I looked up it was a strange man entering our home.  He did not appear threatening, so I did not panic, but walked over to greet him.


He was obviously very upset.  “I need help,” he said.  “I locked my keys in my apartment”.


I jumped in, quickly trying to brainstorm how we could solve that big but not MAJOR problem.  “Oh, your keys?  That’s ok!  We will help get them out,” I naively told him.


But the keys weren’t the problem.


“No.  It is my daughter.  She was in a car accident.  They called me.  It was near Maryland.”


Ahhh – this was getting more complex and I was not understanding how we could really HELP in this situation.


“I locked my apartment key inside.  I need to drive to Maryland.  She is in the hospital.  But I do not have enough gas…” he sheepishly told me.  “My car is over there…” he gestured, trying to say, “I am not a scammer, this is real!” without having to say it.


Well, THIS was now a tangible problem with a solution I could sponsor – gas money from the Kindness Activist funds.  “It is ok!” I told him.  “We have money for your gas.”  I told him to go to his car and wait while I went to get the funds.


David had joined us by that point, so he and David chatted while I got some things together.  Cold blue Gatorade to drink on his ride – check.  Freshly baked snickerdoodle cookies thanks to an amazing donor – check.  And $50 for gas.


I gave him the snacks, then held out the money.  He was dumbfounded.  He just stared at it.


“No, too much…” he said.


“Sir, this is for you.  For gas.  If you don’t need it today, put in more gas tomorrow.”


And David reminded him that gas is expensive, so he should take it all.  He asked if he could leave his license with us (as “insurance” I guess, though the money was a gift and not a loan).  Of course we declined. 


He was visibly shaken and very thankful.  I asked if I could give him a hug, and he was happy to accept.  And while I hugged him, he began to cry.  Real tears.  He was a strong man, but the fear, the sadness, and the gratitude proved to too much and tears flowed. 


“I come because I know you help.  I know you help people.”


We got him some tissues, and I rubbed his back.  I was worried he might be too upset to drive and kept encouraging him to drive safely.  That’s when he told us, “The reason I cry…  You give me a hug.  And today is my BIRTHDAY.”


His birthday.


His daughter in an accident.

His keys locked inside.

His gas tank on empty.

Having to ask strangers to help.


His birthday.


I hugged him again and we told him happy birthday. 


I hope he drives safely.  I hope his daughter is ok.  I hope his birthday gets better.


And I am glad that he knew our home was a safe place to find help.




Kindness Activist funds spent:  $50