We went to a party at
our friends’ house in the summer of 2011.
I am not a great “party person” – I typically feel a bit overwhelmed and
unsure where to stand, who to talk to, how to “fit in” at events like
that. But at this particular party, I found
a pal. Her name was Mila. The funny thing was, Mila and I couldn’t really
communicate with one another. She was 2
years old and didn’t speak much ENGLISH, and I was 45 years old and spoke NO
Russian… But we smiled a lot at each
other, and skipped a bit, and ended up snuggling on the sofa looking page by
page through a coffee table book of “Doors of Paris”. J We didn’t any words to
turn the big pages and admire the photographs.
It was lovely.
I became Facebook
friends with her mom, Erica, after that party and have enjoyed following their
family adventures through FB. We run
into them every once in a while at plays or at parties at the same mutual
friends’ house where we met. Her mom
recently posted photos of a VERY KIND thing they did, so I asked if she would
share it with me for the blog and she was happy to. I know that Mila and Erica will inspire
you. Here is their story:
“September is Children’s Cancer Awareness
Month. We have a personal connection to
children’s cancer, since my daughter Mila was treated for a rhabdoid tumor at
Children’s National Medical Center (CNMC) in Washington DC and continues to go
there yearly for long term care. (NOTE: Please see the end of this piece to learn
more about Mila’s story.)
Mila when she was a baby at CNMC |
I am eternally grateful for the care Mila
received at CNMC and I am happy to do anything to give back to them and their
patients. I knew from our time spent there how fantastic the hospital is, and
continues to be, including services like free books and other resources and
gifts for patients and their families.
Mila and Big Sister Fiona |
Amanda and I know each other from when we
both worked at the Baltimore Symphony Orchestra. She lives in upstate NY now but we keep in
touch over Facebook. It felt so great to put the fundraiser up on Facebook and see the support begin! We exceeded our goal of raising $1000 and raised over $1500 instead. Mila had a great time selecting the books online for the donation.
Donating the books! |
As a result of that fundraising, 6 boxes of
brand new Usborne books for kids of all ages and interest were donated to CNMC. When we made the delivery to the hospital Mila
was very personable with the staff (what else is new?!). She isn’t afraid to tell people she was sick.
I think it’s important for her to be aware of her medical history and keep the
dialogue open and positive about her and our experience, and this project
fueled that.
I can say first hand as a CNMC parent that it
feels amazing to receive the kindness offered from not only the staff of the
hospital, but from all of the programs that they offer, like this one, they
have developed for patient services.
I will absolutely do a
project like this one again. Who doesn’t want to duplicate kindness? It feels fantastic.”
Isn’t that an amazing way
to spread kindness?? Mila got to help
give back to the very place that has been so important to her and her
family. Erica was kind enough to also
share with me Mila’s treatment story, which is inspiring. When I see the photos of Mila break dancing
today it is hard to believe all she went through when she was a baby. Here is her treatment story, as told by her
mother:
“Mila is a survivor. On
Memorial Day weekend 2009 we noticed a small lump on Mila's right shoulder. She
was 4 months old. Within 4 weeks it had grown to the size of an egg. It was
surgically removed on June 19 and we were told the tumor was malignant. The
pathology results on the tumor cells indicated they were missing part of
chromosome 22, known to cause a rhabdoid tumor, a rare form of children’s
cancer. There are about 15 cases each year diagnosed nationally.
The results of
treatment were very uncertain because of the lack of statistically significant
research on the type of cancer due to its rarity. From July 2009-January 2010
Mila receive 8 rounds of chemotherapy to eradicate the disease. She finished
her treatments right before her 1st birthday. She received almost 100 scans to
ensure the cancer hadn’t formed in other locations in her body. She was under
the care of Jeffrey Dome, Chief Oncologist at Children's National Medical
Center. Dr. Dome is a research specialist in pediatric solid tumors of the
kidney, of which rhabdoid tumors is one. He was also Chair of the Children’s
Oncology Group study for rhabdoid tumor - an international study that 200
children’s hospitals participate in.
We were lucky enough
to have a facility like Children’s National Medical Center nearby in D.C. AND
an oncologist on staff there who happened to be one of the national experts on
Mila’s type of cancer. Lucky isn’t even a big enough word to describe it. In
the weeks we spent on the 4th floor of the hospital, meeting other families
whose children were in its care, we realized that some were traveling hundreds
of miles each month to bring their kids to Children’s.
Mila has been
cancer-free for more than 5 years now. In January of 2015 she ‘rang the bell’
at Children’s. She will continue to be in the care of doctors for aftereffects
of the chemotherapy drugs, but you would never know in looking at her that she
lived through cancer. She break dances, plays soccer, tortures her cat Tigger
and studies French and Russian. She and her big sister Fiona are each other’s
best friends – most of the time!
And she reminds us all
every day that there is hope.”
Thanks for sharing
Mila’s story, Erica. And thank you and
Amanda for doing such a kind act for CNMC.
I am betting there is some little kid giggling while reading “Captain
Underpants” at this very moment because of you.
To learn more about Children's National Medical Center, see this link
To learn more about Usborne books, see Amanda's site at this link
Do YOU know of a
KINDNESS ACTIVIST that I can spotlight?
Kindness activism doesn’t have to be a big, grand gesture – kindness comes
in all shapes and sizes. If you have
seen, received, or given kindness, please take a moment to tell me about
it. Send me details at: kindnessactivist@gmail.com
. Kindness SHARED inspires kindness.
I just came across this story from the Asheville newspaper, the Citizen-Times, and thought you'd enjoy it: http://www.citizen-times.com/story/life/2016/02/06/asheville-man-inspires-random-generosity-through-facebook/79698242/
ReplyDeleteThat is GREAT!! Thanks so much for sharing it Rakewell. I would love to talk to someone who received a gift from Mr. McClung, or Mr. McClung himself! He truly is a Kindness Activist!
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