This story of kindness happened 11 days ago. I have been wanting to write about it ever
since, but it is a tough one to put out there, and I have not been able to
bring myself to write about it. It involves
someone I love being on the RECEIVING END of an amazing kindness. But before I can introduce you to the newest
Kindness Activist, I have to tell you something I have not wanted to
admit: my big sister has breast cancer.
Sherry during less stressful times, checking out cherry blossoms when she was visiting us in DC |
Here are the 3 sisters with our mom - Annette, Mom, me, Sherry (back in 2002) |
She doesn’t have all the details yet. She has had a biopsy, met with the surgeon,
had an MRI today, and has a meeting with a plastic surgeon coming up. Right now it is “wait for MRI results” time,
then comes the treatment. She doesn’t have
a stage yet, doesn’t know for sure what next steps are, and isn’t sure what
these next few months will involve. It is
obviously a very scary time for her.
Now let me introduce you to a GOOD part of this story. Her real name is Heather, but we like to call her ANGEL.
Now let me introduce you to a GOOD part of this story. Her real name is Heather, but we like to call her ANGEL.
Sherry had her biopsy and was waiting for results. They didn’t come as quickly as she had hoped
(do they ever???) and when the call from the doctor finally came in, she was at
the gym doing her early morning workout.
When the doctor asked if she had someone with her and if she was sitting
down, that was a pretty good indicator that the news coming up was not going to
be good…
She grabbed a pen and paper and scribbled down what the
doctor was saying. And when she hung up,
she crumbled into a puddle on the locker room floor, crying.
Enter ANGEL.
Angel saw Sherry, a complete stranger, crying and came over
to her. She held her, comforted her, and
talked to her. ANGEL WAS THERE FOR
HER. Here is how Sherry described it: “I have to tell you this story because it shows
me that when I am without strength, God provides others to hold me up. I got
the call from my doctor yesterday when I was at the gym. I quickly grabbed my
phone, jumped off the treadmill, and went into the locker room. I knew it wasn't good news when he asked if I had someone with me (no, I did not) and if I could sit down (I was too stunned to sit, but stood there). He proceeded to tell me the biopsy showed I had breast cancer and he gave me a bunch of into to write down. I somehow opened my combination lock, found a scrap of paper, and wrote the names and numbers he repeated for me. When I hung up, I burst into tears and fell to my knees. It was at this moment that a woman walked into the locker room. She quickly walked over to me, asked if I was okay... pretty obvious I wasn't, and threw her arms around me. She held me as I sobbed there on the locker room floor. She cried with me as I told her the news I had just received. She stayed with me and softly reassured me that I could do this. I had never met this woman, I don't know her name, but she was a gift from God to me yesterday. I think I will call her Angel."
Angel was there
at just the right moment. And she didn’t
turn away, avert her eyes in embarrassment and leave my sister there
alone. She walked over, hugged her, and
let her cry. She even cried along! And until I communicated with Angel, I hadn’t
thought of what the whole situation must have looked like from her point of
view. She said, “I turned the corner to
the locker room and saw her struggling to stand and she was sobbing. I was just drawn to her, as she was clearly
in distress. I went to see how I could
help, as anyone should when they witness another person in need. I was panicked
at first, because I wasn’t sure what was going on. After wrapping my arms around her and hearing
her voice say to me, “I have cancer, my doctor just told me I have cancer,” I was
overcome with emotion and cried with her.”
You know, I had
an experience a few years ago in an airport where a stranger helped me when I was
crying. I was on a business trip and I got
a call while on a layover saying that my dad had prostate cancer. I walked up and down the halls of the airport
in a daze, crying. And one person, one
business man, didn’t ignore me. He was
not put off by my tears, but instead gently approached me to ask what was
wrong. I cried harder and told him
through tears that my dad had just been diagnosed with prostate cancer. And I remember that stranger’s kindness, his
sweet voice and his gentle words, reassuring me that it would be ok, that my
dad could beat this, that this type of cancer wasn’t a horrible diagnosis. He was right, my dad is still living. And I have often thought of that kind man and
wished I could thank him.
So I told
Sherry, we MUST FIND ANGEL! She is a
true Kindness Activist, and needs a Kindness button to wear!! I wrote a little note for Sherry to print and
put up in the locker room, and she edited it to make it just perfect. She printed it and hung it, and our “fishing expedition”
started. We were fishing for ANGEL!
This is the note Sherry hung in the locker room... Let the fishing begin... |
Angel (aka Heather) and her sweetheart. Doesn't she just LOOK like an Angel??? |
So Sherry has been able to thank Angel in person for being
there at just the right moment and being so, so kind. I would like to thank her, too. I live quite a long plane ride away from the
rest of my family, so being there at “just the right time” is difficult when it
is not something planned in advance. I feel
bad that I wasn’t there to help Sherry through these difficult first steps on
this journey, but I am very grateful that Angel was. Angel told Sherry that she had thought a lot
about her since they met in the locker room, had prayed for her and even cried
for her. And she told me that she has
now been praying about ways that doctors can deliver this type of very
difficult news in a more sensitive way.
She said, “I hope to help our hospitals adopt new best practices on ways
of communicating unfavorable news to patients”.
Yes, the woman who was such an angel to my sister works in
HEALTHCARE. It is lovely.
And Heather, I hope you don’t mind if we don’t use your given
name. To our family, you are Angel. And you told me that you hope that Sherry felt
some warmth and comfort from you – TRUST ME, she did.
The 3 Thompson girls when we were a bit younger :) |
If you are the praying type, prayers for Sherry are
appreciated. If you are the wishing on
stars type, can your wish tonight be for her?
And if you are the “sending good vibes” type, send them her way
please. And if you are the commenting type, she is an avid reader of this blog and will read your messages. However you can support her, she (and her sisters) appreciate
it.
This type of thing normally happens when the 3 of us get together, so if Sherry has to have chemo, that hospital is gonna be a mess... |
I can't resist one final photo - us with our mom again. I am not sure why Sherry didn't have to wear a matching itchy plaid dress, but at least we all had the same gogo boots. |
What a sweet story. I thank Angel, too. Best wishes to Sherry. Thank you for sharing it, Susan. Yanomi
ReplyDeleteThanks Yanomi. You would love Sherry. Someday you need to meet. Sherry and Annette need to meet Kiss Around Pass Around.
DeleteGreat story! I love Angel and I've never met her! Angels are always at the right place, at the right time, aren't they?! I'm so thankful she was there to comfort my sister! Hugs to you sweet Angel!
ReplyDeleteWe need to take Angel out and do something fun!
DeleteSherry and Susan, This story has moved me to tears (of course) and also some pretty awesome feelings of joy for the kindness of strangers. I will be thinking of you, and praying for you! You will clearly rock through this sucker!!!!
ReplyDeleteStrangers rock sometimes, don't they? It is amazingly perfect that Angel was there at just the right time. :)
DeleteOh Susan, I cried my way through this, for all of you. It's beautiful & so are you. I know what you have been through & I know how scary this is for you & your sisters - and your dad. So definitely you will all be in my thoughts, prayers, wishes, with a very special blessing going out to Heather. My heart goes out to your lovely sister. She is so blessed to have you as her champion. Looking forward to following her on her journey. It's not going to be all bad. There will be other Heather's to light the way.
ReplyDeleteThank you Cheryl. Good reminder to keep our eyes open for Heathers along the way.
DeleteThank you Pam.
ReplyDeleteAll three of you sisters are kindness activists. It's no wonder an Angel was there to comfort Sherry. My prayers and wishes are of course sent Sherry's way and I am here for ANYTHING you might need.
ReplyDeleteThanks Bobbi.
DeleteThis comment came to me via email - the writer tried and tried to get it to post and it wouldn't work. Aunt Nancy writes:
ReplyDelete"What a special Angel Heather is! And Sherry you are an Angel, too.
We are thinking of you and praying for you as you go through all this. We pray you will have a full and complete recovery. You are very special to us and we love you sooooo much! Aunt Nancy and Uncle Bill"